This is a warning, a huge warning!! You may like this, you may not. You may hate me or you may fall in love with me. (I’m already taken though!) You may learn something new!!! I am honest, raw, and totally me!!! So the warning has been sent!!!!
So, let’s first discuss the word disability. This means that there are some, not all, abilities that we may or may not have. However, it does not mean that we lack some of the basic human needs. We want to be loved, touched, cared for in ways that able-bodied people do too. It is ingrained in the human DNA to have these wants and needs no matter what abilities you may or may not have. We just may have to go about certain things, like sex, in a different way than most people. I do want to say that at the moment I still have the ability to walk. With SB you never know what might happen and the doctors can’t say for sure what might happen later down the road. However, I do have limitations in other areas of my life and abilities.
Let’s get down and dirty, right now!!! Can SB or disabled people have sex???? ABSO-FREAKING-LUTELY!!! We may not be able to be all porn star like in bed, but we will do what we have to!!!! Everyone has that sexual drive within them. Some may be stronger and some may be harder to turn on, but we all have that need. Don’t assume that you know what ability they may or may not posses.
Don’t start assuming that the moment you see someone in a wheelchair, walking with a walker or braces, that automatically that inherent drive is shut down and that they can’t rock your world!!! Don’t assume that if you see a person that has a disability with another person, that there is no possible way those two can be in a relationship.
Now I will let you in on a little bit of my personal life. I am married to a wonderful man, who I met 14 years ago when he was an active duty Marine. We were married in 2007 and in late 2008 we delivered an amazing healthy little guy into the world. My husband’s sex drive is out the roof!!! Obviously, he’s a Marine!!! If you ever hung out or know about Marine’s you would totally understand that statement. My sex drive is not ON all the time, but I am female and we tend to take longer to get turned on. It’s not a light switch guys, it’s something you have to build up to! It has nothing to do with my SB nor my actual ability to have sex.
My husband and I have learned through the years we’ve been married, how to turn each other on just like a “normal” couple. Everyone has a different way of learning about their bodies and their partners bodies; what stimulates them and what drives them crazy. What works for one couple or person may not work for you or your relationship! That’s why exploration is so much fun and very important!!!!
So please don’t assume that you know what a person is capable of based on how they look or what abilities they may or may not posses!!! Just like “normal” couples we may go at it like bunnies or we may take it nice and slow. However, I think we have an advantage to “normal” couples, because we get to experiment more and find new ways to accommodate each other in the bedroom!!! Don’t be jealous, it’s just the way it is!!!!
Shuffle on my friends, or in this case, get your groove on!!!!